• How to let my Fiance know I want a Bridal Set?

    02:01:30 am on December 17, 2009 | by bianca |
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    My Fiance proposed to me with his Grandmother’s pearl heirloom ring, and it is beautiful. I will be having a birthday before the wedding and I know he’s been saving up for something nice, and I was thinking since I have to buy a wedding band anyways, I could get a lovely bridal set, with the solitaire and wedding band together. A wedding band won’t fit on my finger right with the heirloom ring and I’d like to wear the "engagement" ring and wedding band together. He has mentioned that he would liket o buy me a ring of my own, and I was thinking this would be a good opportunity. It’s not that I don’t love and appreciate the heirloom ring, I would love to wear it near my heart on a necklace or on my right hand. I just figured we could get more bang for the buck with a bridal set.

    Do you think this is okay?

    And how can I mention this to him?

     

Answers

  • Juliette 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    You: "Hey, honey, I’d really like a bridal set."

    Him: "What’s that? (He’s a guy, so he probably won’t know)"

    You: "Its… and I’d like it because…"

    Him: "Alright."

    It isn’t that big of a deal. Clearly you appreciate his grandmother’s ring, but if he has already mentioned getting you your own ring, then your suggestion is fine. My hubby is in the Army, and we got married prior to a deployment, so he didn’t have enough money for an engagement ring. He got me a three stone diamond ring, but the diamonds were all the same size so it looks like an anniversary band. I love that ring, but he felt so bad about not being able to save up more for a ring, that eventually he bought me a new engagement ring. I now wear the original engagement ring as an anniversary band, the newer engagement ring, and my wedding band together. I suggested that to him when he said he wanted to get me a newer engagement ring. He was fine with it.

    Just say it to him. If he loves you, he’ll understand, and he’ll take your opinion into consideration.

  • Renee B 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    If that is what you are wanting, simply tell him that. I am sure he is more than willing to listen to what you have to say and what you like.

    My boyfriend and I have been looking at rings but I told him that I would not pick out my own ring, that he had to pick it out. To start with, he didn’t have a clue, then I showed him things out of magazines and tried to convey that is what I liked. Then we went to the store and looked at sets because that is what he wants to buy, it is usually cheaper that way. We have finally picked a set, so I am just waiting for the proposal!

  • Laura in North Carolina 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    "Hey honey, what kind of ring were you thinking about getting me? I like these. (show pic of what you want)"

  • Raghav 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    U guys definitely like each other and there will b a certain amount of trust n faith u’ll hav in between .
    So just go ahead and tell him what u feel . I’m sure he’ll take it in a rightway and understand ur feelings.
    "Love is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction."

  • as2633 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    just tell him?

  • Julie C 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    You should just talk to him about it like you just did writing about it. I think the gesture of the ring is very special, but it’s also an heirloom. You should have your own wedding ring set if you really feel you want one. There’s nothing wrong with just wearing the heirloom pearl ring alone, but like you said, your right hand would be great.

  • Sunny 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    yeah that’s definitely okay! you and your fiance should go shopping together, that way he can pick out the wedding band he wants for himself, and you can pick out your bridal set.

  • B2B 6-27-09 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    If its what you want ask! You are marrying the guy, you have to be honest! Twll him you love the ring and you want to wear it but you want a brodal set because you have always dreamed of having one. I am sure he will understand.

  • MEL 2:01 am on December 17, 2009 |

    Casually mention it. ‘I saw this at the mall today and she had a bridal set, you know where the engagement and wedding bands go together? It was soo neat and pretty!"

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