• If your parents paid for your wedding, who paid for the honeymoon?

    05:03:01 am on January 2, 2010 | by bianca |
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    I am blessed enough to have very traditional parents who are willing to pay for my entire wedding (still on a budget). I totally understand I am very fortunate and in no way is this their responsibility. Anyway, I grew up knowing my parents would pay for the wedding and it was my job to pay for the honeymoon. I work with a woman who asked where I was going for my honeymoon and I replied "my fiance and I are trying to save up for a 2 week cruise to the Caribbean, but if not we’ll go to an all inclusive resort since its cheaper" after I said that she told me it is absurd I have to pay for my own honeymoon and has never heard anyone paying for their own, and its the parents responsibilities. Does anyone else think SHE is the one who is off? She is a very spoiled young woman, and I think she wanted to flaunt her spoiledness, but has anyone else heard this? Also, who is paying for your honeymoon?

     

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  • silky_vixen 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    She sounds very spoiled…me and my husband paid for our own wedding, and did not even end up going on a honeymoon. Had we though, the cost would have been ours. You are right to think she is off…and spoiled. And you are a gracious person to never expect this from your parents. Sounds like you have a wonderful family!

  • Becca H 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    His parents paid for our first night together, and the rest was up to us. But they did it as part of their gift, not because they were supposed to.
    I’ve never personally known anyone who had their honeymoon completely paid for by parents. So, I would say that she is spoiled and just doesn’t know how it is in the real world.

  • kcarp73 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    The parents of the groom, traditionally, pay for the rehearsal dinner. The parents of the bride, traditionally, pay for the actual wedding. As for the honeymoon…sorry, it’s up to the bride and groom. And traditionally, money received from guests of the wedding goes towards the honeymoon.
    Tell your spoiled co-worker that you are honored that your parents are willing to pay for your wedding but in this day and age of independent women, Mommy and Daddy don’t need to tend to all your wants.

  • LadyHawk 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    No one paid for anything except us. I’ve never heard of the honeymoon being paid for by parents-unless given as a gift but I’ve heard of no tradition of this.

  • lalaland 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    We paid for our wedding. And we couldn’t afford a honeymoon. What a bummer. You’re lucky your family is able to help you out. Good luck!

  • ducky~engaged! 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    yeah she sounds really spoiled. i’m blessed my parents are helping me with my wedding at all. they have 3 girls are you you Imaginehow much all three would be?

  • Good♄Gyrl 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    Traditionally, the groom pays for the honeymoon, regardless of who hosts the wedding.

  • Lady_b 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    My parents are paying for my wedding and as a wedding gift (even though I said them paying is enough of a gift) They are putting 500.00 towards our honeymoon. And to cover the cost of the rest of it, we are asking for cash for gifts to go towards the honeymoon only because we already have everything as we have been living together for 3 years already.

  • stseukn 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    According to tradition, the groom is responsible for the honeymoon, wedding/reception belongs to the parents of the bride, and the rehearsal dinner belongs to the groom’s parents.

    Sounds like your colleague is a nut.

    And if you want really beautiful all-inclusive resorts, try:

    http://www.karismahotels.com

    I think most are adults only and the El Dorado Royale is fantastic (been there three times; it’s a five star resort). Best wishes.

  • Jessica 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    I think that is something for the couple to take care of usually. My fiance and I are exceedingly fortunate. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding. My fiance and I are saving up to help as much as we can, though. In lue of wedding presents, his father gave us his timeshare in Funchal, Madeira, Portugal for a week, his mother is putting money towards our air fare (which she did for his older sister) and my parents have said they will cover the difference (my dad travels a lot and they are generously giving us airline miles). My fiance and I are responsible for spending money basically.

  • mblue1209 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    yes, traditionally it is the groom’s job to pay for the honeymoon

    We plan on going on a two week cruise to the Caribbean also! We went on a weekend cruise last year and now we’re hooked haha. We’re paying for our own honeymoon, but we are not having a wedding. We’re getting married at the courthouse, going on honeymoon, and coming back for a small "reception"/party/celebration. My parents cannot assist me financially (they haven’t been able to since I moved out at 18) and his parents are… different.

    And your coworker was incorrect… most parents do not pay for the honeymoon as the average wedding pricetag is right around $30,000. Sadly for her, she probably has developed some poor spending habits…

  • Smiles 5:03 am on January 2, 2010 |

    My husband an I paid for most of our wedding and all of our honeymoon. We took a ten day cruise to alaska.

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