No, they are yours to do with as you may. It’s merely when an engagement is called off, that the engagement ring needs to be returned. Sell them, and buy yourself some other piece of smashing jewellery!
taraloha 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I think the merely time a ring should be returned is if the engagement is broken off by the bride-to-be. Once you’ve married the man, the ring is yours (however it would be kind of you to return it if it’s a family heirloom). Your engagement ring was a gift; are you planning to return some of the other gifts your husband gave to you during your marriage? Of course not. So you don’t have to return the ring either. My engagement ring is in a box where I keep some my special jewelry and I still wear my wedding ring because it was my mom’s original wedding ring. My mom replaced it with his "dream ring" when they renewed his vows and he put the original in the safe until I got married.
kateqd30 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Unless either of the rings was an heirloom from his family, no you keep the rings.
smartypants 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you possess a family heirloom from his family it would be kind to return it, otherwise, those pieces are your own jewelry! don’t give them to him. ever. i once returned an engagement ring and the fellow sold it the following day for pennies on the dollar. keep them and down the road the right use for them, either to remake them into another piece of jewelry, or, keep them for your own heirs, may be apparent to you.
PHIL 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The wedding ring is up to you. I gave mine to my ex because the rings were bought as a pair, and they would stay that way. The diamond I gave to his when I proposed. The moment that he said yes, I lost some rights to it and it became hers. The engagement ring that your ex gave you when he proposed is yours also. If you have children, pass it on to 1 of them when they get married. That or have the diamond put into a necklace. Again, the choice is yours.
Kads 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Hell no
floridagirl55 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
1) Did you brake the marriage or did he ?
2) Do you have children by him ?
If you broke the marriage, then YES give him back the rings.
If you have children by him, save them for his wedding day !
If you have a girl, give his the engaement ring for his to either wear, or just give it to his in a necklace w/the stones
If you have a boy, then give him the band for him to either wear or hand down to his first child.
Do not SELL the rings, they meant something to both of you at 1 time, just hand them down to your children.
samantha 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
No…that is when you break an engagement. The rings are yours to keep. Many who have been married still wear 1 of the rings….maybe on the other hand…it is your decision….but he doesn’t want them back.
Crazy Buzy Princess 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
NO! It’s neither bad luck nor necessary. The rings were a gift, they’re not community property & you were married. I took the stones out of mine & had them turned into another piece of jewelry
snvffy 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I can’t imagine either having sentimental value to either of you, so why not sell them both and split the money?
tunderwife 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
has he asked for them back? i’d keep them, they were gifts to you. as far as bad luck. i dont know, but if you keep e, you could pawn them!
britt 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
idk what i would do… maby….
smellyfoot 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Me too. I gave back the engagement ring because it was a family heirloom. I kept the wedding band because I paid for it - I guess I should have kept his too….
Aussie Ian 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
If it is an heirloom ring that should belong to his family, yes, give it back. If not, then no. Lots of my friends have taken the stone out and re-set it as a pendant - it is a cathartic act.
Butterfly 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you have kids give them to your kids if not i would keep them because they were given to you when you guys were together and even if it wen t bad it was a part of your life and once upon a time meant something to you
Glen G 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I don’t know about the bad luck factor, but go with your heart. He gave them to you, they are yours to do what you want to do with them.
How did you break up? Was it graceful? If so, it seems that the proper thing to do would be to return them and say "sorry it didn’t work out". What are your other options, pawning them? Maybe if it was a really bad break up!
I tossed my wedding ring into the ocean before a very bad divorce, it felt good.
JAMES SCORPION 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The proper thing would be to return the ring. But that is entirely up to you.
Ivy likes Good Charlote 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
sale it!!!
and buy a kind dress
Angie 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The merely time I would feel obligated to return the rings would be if they were his family’s heirlooms.
Marlene C 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Not unless they were family heirlooms … if not … hell no … sell them and take a divorce trip to some where good and celebrate!!!
olandressgirl 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
No. Legally it is yours because once you got married it became your property.
tidww 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Legally they are your’s. But do whatever brings the most harmony. If he simply has to have them, give them to him and move on, otherwise sell them. I’ve never heard of it being bad luck. But you don’t want them around in the future, should you find someone else.
married mum 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you instigated the divorce, you should return the rings. If he did, they are yours to keep. It may not be bad luck to keep the rings, but they may stop you emotionally from relocating on. If you find yourself looking at them and crying, get rid of them.
brendafarias@sbcglobal.net 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
NO. THE RINGS ARE YOURS TO DO WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH THEM. WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM AND GOT ENGAGED WITH HIM THEY WERE OFFICIALLY YOURS TO KEEP. NO IT’S NOT BAD LUCK TO KEEP THEM. WE MAKE OUR OWN good OR BAD LUCK.
BOOBOO 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
i returned my wedding ring but we got back together 3 mionths later but u never know wha tcan happen…..if u like it keep it a while an i say before 6 months take it bk maybe if your receipt is still good
maigen_obx 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
It depends on the reasons for the divorce. If he cheated on you, then no he doesn’t get the rings back. If you cheated on him, then yes he does get the rings back. Other than that the rings were a gift to you, are you giving back every gift he ever gave you? The merely other reason for giving them back is if they are a family heirloom, in which case you have to give them back. They belong in his family.
Honeybee 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The rings are yours to keep or do whatever you want with. My mother had his band made into earrings.
Here’s a cute story that I heard on NPR about what 1 woman did with his rings.
Lydia 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
No, they are yours to do with as you may. It’s merely when an engagement is called off, that the engagement ring needs to be returned. Sell them, and buy yourself some other piece of smashing jewellery!
taraloha 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I think the merely time a ring should be returned is if the engagement is broken off by the bride-to-be. Once you’ve married the man, the ring is yours (however it would be kind of you to return it if it’s a family heirloom). Your engagement ring was a gift; are you planning to return some of the other gifts your husband gave to you during your marriage? Of course not. So you don’t have to return the ring either. My engagement ring is in a box where I keep some my special jewelry and I still wear my wedding ring because it was my mom’s original wedding ring. My mom replaced it with his "dream ring" when they renewed his vows and he put the original in the safe until I got married.
kateqd30 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Unless either of the rings was an heirloom from his family, no you keep the rings.
smartypants 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you possess a family heirloom from his family it would be kind to return it, otherwise, those pieces are your own jewelry! don’t give them to him. ever. i once returned an engagement ring and the fellow sold it the following day for pennies on the dollar. keep them and down the road the right use for them, either to remake them into another piece of jewelry, or, keep them for your own heirs, may be apparent to you.
PHIL 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The wedding ring is up to you. I gave mine to my ex because the rings were bought as a pair, and they would stay that way. The diamond I gave to his when I proposed. The moment that he said yes, I lost some rights to it and it became hers. The engagement ring that your ex gave you when he proposed is yours also. If you have children, pass it on to 1 of them when they get married. That or have the diamond put into a necklace. Again, the choice is yours.
Kads 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Hell no
floridagirl55 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
1) Did you brake the marriage or did he ?
2) Do you have children by him ?
If you broke the marriage, then YES give him back the rings.
If you have children by him, save them for his wedding day !
If you have a girl, give his the engaement ring for his to either wear, or just give it to his in a necklace w/the stones
If you have a boy, then give him the band for him to either wear or hand down to his first child.
Do not SELL the rings, they meant something to both of you at 1 time, just hand them down to your children.
samantha 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
No…that is when you break an engagement. The rings are yours to keep. Many who have been married still wear 1 of the rings….maybe on the other hand…it is your decision….but he doesn’t want them back.
Crazy Buzy Princess 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
NO! It’s neither bad luck nor necessary. The rings were a gift, they’re not community property & you were married. I took the stones out of mine & had them turned into another piece of jewelry
snvffy 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I can’t imagine either having sentimental value to either of you, so why not sell them both and split the money?
tunderwife 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
has he asked for them back? i’d keep them, they were gifts to you. as far as bad luck. i dont know, but if you keep e, you could pawn them!
britt 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
idk what i would do… maby….
smellyfoot 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Me too. I gave back the engagement ring because it was a family heirloom. I kept the wedding band because I paid for it - I guess I should have kept his too….
Aussie Ian 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
If it is an heirloom ring that should belong to his family, yes, give it back. If not, then no. Lots of my friends have taken the stone out and re-set it as a pendant - it is a cathartic act.
Butterfly 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you have kids give them to your kids if not i would keep them because they were given to you when you guys were together and even if it wen t bad it was a part of your life and once upon a time meant something to you
Glen G 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
I don’t know about the bad luck factor, but go with your heart. He gave them to you, they are yours to do what you want to do with them.
How did you break up? Was it graceful? If so, it seems that the proper thing to do would be to return them and say "sorry it didn’t work out". What are your other options, pawning them? Maybe if it was a really bad break up!
I tossed my wedding ring into the ocean before a very bad divorce, it felt good.
JAMES SCORPION 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The proper thing would be to return the ring. But that is entirely up to you.
Ivy likes Good Charlote 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
sale it!!!
and buy a kind dress
Angie 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The merely time I would feel obligated to return the rings would be if they were his family’s heirlooms.
Marlene C 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Not unless they were family heirlooms … if not … hell no … sell them and take a divorce trip to some where good and celebrate!!!
olandressgirl 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
No. Legally it is yours because once you got married it became your property.
tidww 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
Legally they are your’s. But do whatever brings the most harmony. If he simply has to have them, give them to him and move on, otherwise sell them. I’ve never heard of it being bad luck. But you don’t want them around in the future, should you find someone else.
married mum 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
if you instigated the divorce, you should return the rings. If he did, they are yours to keep. It may not be bad luck to keep the rings, but they may stop you emotionally from relocating on. If you find yourself looking at them and crying, get rid of them.
brendafarias@sbcglobal.net 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
NO. THE RINGS ARE YOURS TO DO WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH THEM. WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM AND GOT ENGAGED WITH HIM THEY WERE OFFICIALLY YOURS TO KEEP. NO IT’S NOT BAD LUCK TO KEEP THEM. WE MAKE OUR OWN good OR BAD LUCK.
BOOBOO 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
i returned my wedding ring but we got back together 3 mionths later but u never know wha tcan happen…..if u like it keep it a while an i say before 6 months take it bk maybe if your receipt is still good
maigen_obx 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
It depends on the reasons for the divorce. If he cheated on you, then no he doesn’t get the rings back. If you cheated on him, then yes he does get the rings back. Other than that the rings were a gift to you, are you giving back every gift he ever gave you? The merely other reason for giving them back is if they are a family heirloom, in which case you have to give them back. They belong in his family.
Honeybee 11:07 am on November 25, 2009 |
The rings are yours to keep or do whatever you want with. My mother had his band made into earrings.
Here’s a cute story that I heard on NPR about what 1 woman did with his rings.