• Is it customary to go shopping with your future fiance for an engagement ring?

    01:03:44 am on December 5, 2009 | by bianca |
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    I kinda know what she wants but I dont want to make a mistake because this is a long term thing and also expensive. Im not going to buy the ring on the spot or let her know when im going to pop the question, it’s just so I can get a better idea.

     

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  • ETicket 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Customary no. Practical? Absolutely. That doesn’t mean she has to be with you when you buy the actual ring, but why not go ‘browsing’ together. The last thing you want to do is buy something she has to pretend to like for the rest of her life.

    Congratulations!

  • Mom of 2 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    My husband proposed with roses and then we went shopping together. He had no idea what to get me either. It was still very romantic and I ended up with a ring I really liked.

  • ladybug 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Well now a days I think woman tell there man what they want so I would say that it was ok. I would maybe take her window shopping and just see what sparks her interests than come back another day. I wish you lot’s of luck.

  • aleka 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    no, but for marriage bands yes. if you don’t want her to know get a catalog and tell her to circle some rings she likes. then when your ready pop the question

  • LaraLara 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    It’s good to have an idea of what she likes, as she has to wear it for the rest of her life, right? You can always find a ring she likes in any price range.

  • mravenec88 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    If you want it to be a suprise, get a friend to find out for you. It’s good to know what she prefers if you’re going to spend a lot of money.

  • daljack 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Surprising her with a ring sounds nice but unless you know exactly what she wants you may be the one surprised.

    I went with my husband when he got my ring so that neither one of us would be surprised.

    Ask her to marry you….and then the next day go looking together for her ring.

  • bmxsnowboarder1 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Try this Go to the mall and just say "hey, I saw a watch in here that I would like to look at." If she strays and looks at some rings, just keep an eye on her and see which one she eye’s the most. Basically, a girl will love a diamond no matter what.

  • loki_only1 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    If she knows its coming and/or you’ve been talking about it… its definately ok for her to go with so you can get some ideas on her personal taste and see what looks good on her hand.

    When my boyfriend dragged me into the jewelry store, i thought i knew what kind of ring i wanted… when i looked at rings on my hand, i’m happy he didnt buy what i thought i wanted. It looked Horrible on my hand.

    All i ask, is let her know what you plan to do (take her to try on rings) i wasnt warned.. and we wasted a LOT of shopping time tryin to get me to stop hyperventalating.

  • dill 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    you could always propose AT a jewellery store… 2-birds, 1-stone kinda thing…!

  • Bam Margera's biggest fan 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    No maybe he/she is takeing you with them so you can pick out your own and the one you like. Or he/she dosen’t know your size.

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  • bypass5x 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    YOU HAVE THE RIGHT IDEA…

    BLESSINGS TO BOTH OF YOU. HAPPY TRAILS.

  • karma_k11 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    I went shopping with my fiance for my ring. We both picked it out together, and he was so happy he didn’t have to make the decision alone. I think it is a good idea to take her because this is a ring that she is going to wear for the rest of her life. Even though we picked out the rings together, it was still a surprise because I had no idea when he was going to propose. If you want, you can even get her to pick out two rings that she likes and then you make the final decision so it will still be a surprise.

    Good luck!

  • imsety 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Yes it is customary to go shopping with your future fiance if this is your future what’s wrong with this and picking out a ring it should take both party.

  • sweet p 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    there is two ways to go about this, well alot more than that even, but I feel the best for you since you got time, is just let her know your saving up for something very special for her, and do this when all is well, at the right time. When you got it the 3 months wages saved up then ask her to what kind of shape stone she likes-if she dont got a clue then get a book and show her, then find one you like that shape and her size, if it dont fit right have them fit it for her.

    I suggest to save money and other things-you get married as soon as possible, or you take your relationship back a level, and jog instead of run till the time of marriage.

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    wow! awesome answer!

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  • kelly a 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    U can take her with u but dont buy the ring while she is there the reason u take her to see if she prefers a certain style of ring or not. then u buy it and make a special surprise for her…

  • baby HM{ aka hovlaine m} 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Well drop some hints if she’s looking at a magazine and sees jewlery ask her if she likes it when she’s answered ,if she seems suspisous just say ok. You can also tell if she likes it if her face brightens up when you ask. But you can ask her if she would like to go ring shoping

  • soymissk8 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    Go talk to a jeweler. See if they will let you purchase the diamond and put it in a temporary setting. Than you can propose with that ring and go shopping for the new setting after the proposal.

  • mooncrystal6 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    I told my boyfriend that when it came to the ring, that I wanted to go shopping with him. We want to pick out something we BOTH like.
    And make sure wherever you buy it that you’ve got a good return policy just in case.
    Congrats!

  • Lov'n IT! 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    no it is not.

  • poppy905 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    My boyfriend and I went engagement ring shopping this weekend and I pointed out ones I liked and we tried a few on. He hasn’t proposed yet - that will be a surprise! but at least we both know that the ring will be one that we both love because, like you said, this ring is forever

  • art14ist 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    I told my fiance at the time when we were dating that if he decided to marry me I wanted him and only him to go pick out the ring because that way I know what he picked out would come from his heart and I wouldn’t know when he was going to pop the question… And I love the ring!!!

    I also hear that if you take a girl with you the price of the ring shoots way up so if you want to save some cash don’t take your girl…shh.

    I know a lot of girls say the bigger the diamond the better; don’t listen to them, if it comes from your heart that’s all that matters. Good luck!

  • Lydia 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    No, not at all. Choose what you think she might like, and that fits your budget comfortably. It’s usually a red flag if a ‘girl’ HAS to have a certain ring. A mature woman understands the symbolism of the ring!

  • July 1:03 am on December 5, 2009 |

    It’s not customary, but it’s practical. I think it’s a lot more romantic to "pop the question" and then shop for the ring if you decide to take her shopping with you. Otherwise, there’s this weird tension everytime you guys go out: this restaurant sucks, so I hope he’s not proposing here. You know. That.

    If you’re set on proposing with ring in hand, you might grab her mom or sister or best friend to take to the jewlery store with you. Pick someone with whom she gets along well and someone who knows her pretty well. Women (most of the time) really love to get involved in marriage proposal plans, and we have a tendency to pick up on subtleties of people’s style. Or, if you’re the type, you might pick a horrible picture from a magazine. Something you know she’d hate. Ask her how she likes it, and she’ll tell you what she likes instead.

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