• Will my future fiancee take me for granted if I ask for an inexpensive ($850) engagement ring?

    05:04:14 pm on December 26, 2009 | by bianca |
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    We’re both pretty young (24) and he’s a solider in the US Army. He leaves for Iraq around March, so we were hoping to get married in November.

    Anyhow, he said if I want a ring sooner than later, than I needed to choose something that was around the ,000 price range.

    Since I had planned to get a Moissannite diamond anyway
    (which is MUCH cheaper than a traditional diamond) I had no problem with this.

    I mentioned our plans to my sister and she said it’s a bad ide because my fiancee will think that if I am willing to accept a cheap (0) engagement ring, that he doesn’t ever have to buy me expensive or nice things once we’re married.

    That my accepting the cheaper ring as opposed to a costly diamond will set the tone for gifts in our marriage.

    Is that true?
    Noel: I think its adorable that you’re in the wedding sections even though you are obviously very young. Just so that you know for yourself when you get married. 0 is NOT expensive for an engagement ring. The average ring from a jewelry store can run you 00. But again, it’s sweet that you think you know what you’re talking about

     

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  • Nickie 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    No it won’t set the tone for gifts in the future.

    You are buying something that you want and like…does it matter what the cost of it is?

  • noelleabella 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    wow you sound like a gold digger. $850 is not cheap to most people, that’s money that he earned and he should be able to spend it where he sees fit. I certainly hope you getting married for more then diamonds and gifts.

  • roger_jnr 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    No, you’re sister is very wrong. That kind of thinking is what gets people into crazy debt. The cost of a diamond does not equal how much he loves you.

  • RunningBear 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    My engagement ring cost £13 and my wedding ring only £60. We’ve been married five years now and he loves me more than life itself.

    Money and love have nothing to do with each other!

  • mlw12342001 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    If you have to put a price tag on it, then it shall be over before it ever gets started, re-think your intentions.

  • oisian88 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    I think you are being considerate and realistic by asking for the cheaper ring. if it is a ring that you like, there is no reason for him to buy you a more expensive one. It is what the ring represents that matters, and that is your commitment to each other. The days are long gone hopefully where almost every girl takes commitment to mean a financial one, and not a partnership of a couple doing what they can for each other. I think it’s great that you have good communication between yourself and your fiance. One of the unwritten rules of marriage is that you have to judge things for yourself, family support is good, but not always accurate.
    good luck and congratulations.

  • Sarah 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    I think your sister is over thinking things. The standards set for one gift don’t usually determine the future thinking in the purchasing of others. A person is usually pretty set in their gift giving ways by age 24. Unless he is a pretty cheap person, I don’t think he would take it that way. If your fiance does make the mistake of thinking you don’t need nice things, the simple act of talking about it can fix the problem. Get the ring you want and don’t listen to your sister. That is more of a question of being cheap rather than assumptions.

  • Mrs.K 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    Love is not about material things or expensive things…

    I dont know whats your economical situation but MOST people are just not rich as the stars to buy a 50000 $ diamond ring… maybe your boyfriend can afford even less than 1000 $ in a ring and still he is doing a huge effort to buy you one.

    I think it doesnt mean anything bad, what matters is the thought and that he wants to marry you… and if he loves you trust me in his mind will always be the thought that you deserve the best! and even if he cant afford it always he’ll always do his best to make you happy…

    I dont know im just saying the price of the ring is irrelevant… and sounds like your sister is bit highmaintenace and materialistic… and sounds like you are really focus in what matters: Love and happiness… Good luck!

  • browneyes_248 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    he wont care how much cheaper it was as long as you love it

  • teresa j 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    thats utterly ridiculous. it wont set the tone. he’ll just appreciate you more for working with him and not being a total diva and demanding an expensive ring just so you can brag about it. ive been wearing my ring for a year and no-one has ever been rude enough to ask howmuch its cost or what its worth. the ring is not the most important part anyway, its the man you are marrying and how you feel about each other. congratulations on getting engaged. do not even consider the rpice - its a cliche but it really is the thought that counts!!!!!!!!!

  • Cecily A 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    No your sister is wrong. That is a good price for a ring, plus you wanted a ring in that range. Also keep in mind you guys are young and he’s a military man…they don’t make that good of money. It’s probably all he has.

    I bet the reason why he said that price range is because it is all he has and if you want a ring now that’s what you’ll get unless you want to wait so he can save up.

  • The one who knows 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    If that is the ring that you want, then that is fine. I do not believe your fiance, future husband, is going to take you for granted if you like a cheaper ring. It doesn’t make sense to get an expensive ring just to get it. You found your ring, price shouldn’t matter! Enjoy!

  • leigh 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    my engagement ring cost $130.00 and we bought it last may during the mothers day specials..
    it looks more expensive than it is and no one has guessed (and believe me my friends are not backwards about telling people what they think is cheap) We wanted to save more money towards a house than a ring.

  • ditzwannabe 5:04 pm on December 26, 2009 |

    my mom had her ring appraised a few months ago and it was only $300. It was all they could afford when they got married. My dad offered to buy her a new one a few years ago and she wouldnt do it because she wanted to remember where they came from. My dad is now a CEO and buys my mom beautiful jewlery but she will never trade in her inexpensive engagement ring. I think that you are great for not wanting a hugely expensive ring. I told my guy I didn’t even need a ring because i know he is hurting for money going to school and working full time. I think your sister is ridiculous for saying it will set the tone for later gifts.

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