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  • mzz_depp 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I think if she truly loves you, you could propose with a ring out of a gumball machine!! =) I say go for it!!

  • Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I’m a very traditional person, so I don’t think the wedding band should be worn until the wedding.
    That having been said, there’s no rule that says you have to spend thousands upon thousands for an engagement ring. If all you can afford is a $.25 gumball machine ring, propose with that and upgrade when you can afford it.

  • BabeHeart 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    You can do whatever you desire, but do some thinking here.

    If you cannot afford a little engagement ring, are you sure you can afford to marry and share a household with all the bills/expenses that entails?

  • thinkpinkpunkrock 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I don’t think its a bad idea, especially if you are cramped for money, but the question is how is your GF going to view this? I know its not all about the size of the ring or the ‘rock’ but most women want something just a tad sparkly to show off. Why not buy a small band with an inset diamond, save up during the planning of the wedding and present her with an eternity band (small diamonds that go all the way around the ring) on your wedding day that can go in front of the first band?

    Or try looking online at places like Walmart, they actually have very pretty wedding sets at an affordable price, and then if down the road you can afford to buy something bigger or in a diff style, do so at your 3-5 yr anniversary.

    Good luck and congrats!!! :)

  • Luna 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    no. a wedding band is for when you get married, when you get engaged your not actually married yet. i understand not being able to afford a big fancy ring, but how bout a small inexpensive ring? just something simple? that way the wedding band can be saved for the wedding.

  • meccalove19 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    i think it depends on your gf. if she’s like me then no a band will not do. i would prefer for you to save your money and get Even a small engagement ring as opposed to no engagement ring. my fiance and i decided to get really inexpensive bands and i have the ring of my dreams. i guess just talk to her inconspicuously about weddings rings etc or you could even pretend its one of your friends just to see how she would feel in that situation. hope that helped

  • melouofs 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I would be unhappy with that. I’m sorry, but it’s the truth. You can get some kind of engagement ring for $200 or so–a wedding band is nto to be worn until there’s a wedding, IMO.

  • adshaw32 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I have both rings, but my sister’s engagement ring was also her wedding ring. her ring didn’t have a wedding band that matched it, so she just wears the one ring. people ask me if my engagement ring is my wedding ring all the time, so i don’t think that it is uncommon for a lady to have only one ring.

  • sleep_guitarist 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    well to be honest you can get some fairly cheap engagement rings- i know my parents cost them £50 (25 years ago) and mine £99 (6 months ago)

    The main question to ask yourself is what do you give her on the wedding day itself- "with this wedding band- that has been your engagement ring until this point i take you to be my wife"???

    At the end of the day only you can really decide- your the one that will know your girlfriend the best and if she knows your financial situation she may be OK with it

    here’s some rings that aren’t badly priced-

    http://www.hsamuel.co.uk/webstore/detail/R/3535193/

    http://www.hsamuel.co.uk/webstore/detail/R/4368428/

    http://jewellery-watches.search.ebay.co.uk/engagement-ring_Diamond_W0QQfromZR34QQsacatZ67726

    another alternative might be getting the wedding band engraved so that it is still a little different from the ring that you will give her on your wedding day

  • C K 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    Save the wedding band for the wedding…it’s more special. Just get a cheap ring and upgrade later. If you are in love enough to get married, she should know your situation and have a sense of humor.

  • winter_spice78 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    That would be fine by me. However most women do pick out their own wedding rings since they will be wearing them forever and the engagement ring is usually a surprise. I don’t like diamonds and think other colored gems are much prettier so I wouldn’t miss the engagement ring if you couldn’t afford one. But some women would feel gypped. You can find inexpensive (under $150 before tax) engagement rings most places. Walmart even sells them in their jewelry dept. Why not propose and then go shop for a wedding ring together?

  • TTC #2 w/PCOS 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    Some would say yes.. Some would say no… IF your girlfriend is aware of your financial standing.. then I believe she would understand… IF you can afford it.. get her a gemstone ring instead.. like her birth stone set in either white or yellow gold along with a plain matching band.. Then when you have more money buy her a rock (j/k).

    Good luck.

  • stephie 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    i think you should find a way to ask your gf what she thinks, she may be ok with it, she may really want a ring (you can get a small one for about $200 from walmart and i think they let you do lay a way on them)

    i had a friend get ingaged without a ring, she ended up getting 2 rings on her wedding day. she was happy with that.

    personally i loved the whole package of getting engaged and getting a ring and people asking, can i see the ring. i’m not a big jewlery person but my husband would have never asked without the ring and i love my ring.

  • jackie b 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    well my bf proposed with no ring at all.. we are getting married in 3 and 1/2 weeks guess what still no ring am i upset heck no… i don’t need a ring when i get the man of my dreams as my husband.. yes we are cramped for cash we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves and well i would rather have the wedding than the ring… so maybe she’ll be the same way… then just get the engagement ring later on.. maybe for the first anniversary or the first christmas or something… if she’s reasonable she’ll understand and it won’t be a big deal at all.. congrats by the way..

  • MissE 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I am fine with that. I do not want an engagement ring. I want the marriage, marriage band and that is it.
    Wedding is only the beginning and engagement well in my opinion a heap of nothing

  • imagine0218 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    OK, in my all out honest opinion: NO. If you propose with the wedding band, what are you going to exchange during the ceremony? It would look pretty stupid if she gives you a ring during the ceremony and you don’t give her one in return. I have seen engerement rings that looked like wedding bands (not at all my taste) but there was still an additional wedding band. I’m with the other girls, and I’m pretty sure your girlfriend will agree with us, even if you have to get her a $0.25 ring from the gum ball machine to signify your engagement, get it.

  • suellenh 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I wear my engagement ring as my only ring - but it has great presence. Talk to your girl and see what she thinks; she’s the one whose opinion matters.

  • Lydia 9:01 am on December 6, 2009 |

    I really think there should be an engagement ring of some sort - it’s symbolic of the promise to marry.
    You can get diamonds and gold for $100, so it’s not a matter of not affording it. You can get a lovely complete set for around that amount, too!
    http://www.amazon.com/dp/B000N62HIO/ref=nosim/?tag=yahoo-jewelry-20&creative=380333&creativeASIN=B000N62HIO&linkCode=asn
    http://www.amazon.com/Choice-Yellow-Diamond-Bridal-Clarity/dp/B0010EI3IQ/ref=pd_sbs_jw_img_5/104-0492795-1377537
    http://www.amazon.com/Choice-Yellow-Diamond-Bridal-Clarity/dp/B0010EI3IQ/ref=pd_sbs_jw_img_5/104-0492795-1377537

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